Welcoa Well Balanced: How to Get Comfortable in Your Communities

You may not have ever realized or thought about it, but you belong to a lot of different communities. Where you live, where you’re from, and where you work can all comprise different and thriving communities. Indeed, communities can be formed from almost limitless avenues, including but not limited to: 

» Neighborhood 

» Language 

» Religion 

» Gender and sexual identity 

» School 

» Family and friends 

» Online groups 

» Sports teams 

» Work 

» Volunteering 

» Interests and hobbies (music, arts, running, reading, movies, etc.) 

» Issues you care about 

Connect with Your Communities 

The more communities you’re involved in, the more you’re able to build strong, lasting relationships. Knowing that we belong and are connected to something larger than ourselves is also essential to maintaining our sense of mental well-being. Of course, it’s not always easy to get and stay connected. Not all of us are “social butterflies” by nature. For many of us, it takes a lot of courage and effort to get out and get active in our various communities. If you find yourself in this category, here are some practical tips on how to reach out to others and find that sense of comfort and belonging. 

• Don’t avoid social gatherings because you’re new or don’t know very many people in the community. Remember, pretty much everyone feels nervous or awkward sometimes. 
• Practice saying hello and striking up conversations with new people. Things may seem like a lot of effort at first, but you’ll get more comfortable with the practice and over time. 
• Show interest in others. Ask people questions about themselves and things they’re interested in. Be an active listener and ask follow-up questions. You’ll have a better chance of connecting with almost anyone if you show interest in who they are. 
• Stay true to yourself. Being an active part of your communities doesn’t mean you have to become a board member or make public speeches. Focus on how you can stay connected and contribute in ways that cater to your strengths and personality. 

Remember, your participation is an essential element to your community’s success. When you’re active in your community you help ensure its goals and objectives are met. No, it’s not always easy getting yourself out there, but with some practice and consistency, you’ll feel comfortable and more importantly, a true sense of purpose and belonging.